Answers?

There are so many questions that we ask others and sometimes ourselves. From easy to hard, not multiple choice but even harder than we thought questions. The problem in those questions is figuring out the answers. Sometimes we know them right away, other times we're stuck like a puzzle. Not knowing where to even begin.
I think that many of us get confused in just concentrating on knowing right away the Why's and not actually marinating in the road to get to that answer of Why. Hopefully you understand what I'm saying. But if not, I'm sorry. Maybe this can help: If something happens in our life, maybe a divorce, we would probably see it as a failure. Depending on the situation of course. You go through steps while divorcing, steps that may include sadness, acceptance, depression and moving on with your life.
What we don't see at the moment is that, that exact road that maybe one of our cafemom or facebook friends went through, there's a light at the end of the tunnel. A place where you are actually shinning at the brightest. Brighter than before where ever you were. Getting there is a hard road but you will get to the answer.
There's also questions being asked and while that you go and do something else that will bring up MORE questions. Therefore, getting more confused in what you want in life. (keeping the divorce idea here).
There are times in our lives that we need to be alone and meditate. Mediate about ourselves. get to know the real deep down you, and your needs. not only wants but what you really need next to you, in your life.
Many of us gets confused and asnwer one of their questions by getting into another relationship and it doesn't end up well. Confused again, asking what happen, or maybe thinking it was you when it probably wasn't...means you need time to do what you need for yourself first. if your working, keep working, do more than usual, be better at it. You never know what that place may bring for your life. Take an activity with a friend (or meet new friends there). Maybe like an art class, or do movie night at your place or a friends place. Or a small gathering. If your religious, joining a bible class may help too. If your a teen there's lots of things to do. A grown women with kids, now there's major activities you can do with them. Alone, then do something you usually don't, maybe a writing class, pottery, dance class. Some people tend to write what they feel and actually feel better.
If we are stuck with many questons, lets not expect answers right away. Because what you lost is actually an openning to a better door. Whether is a partner or a pet. We all don't stay or live forever. It does hurt, I know that, there's pain, I know that too. But there's hope also. Hope in that we would see the better tomorrow and the filling it will have to make things better, or at least somewhat.
Please know that if your going through something there are people out there to talk to. And if youfeel you want to talk to be, don't hesitate, I don't judge and I always choose my words carefully.
From my family to yours, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Years!!!