Reminder

WE TEND TO FORGET THAT

HAPPINESS

DOESN'T COME AS A RESULT

OF GETTING SOMETHING

WE DON'T HAVE, BUT

RATHER OF

RECOGNIZING

& APPRECIATING

WHAT WE

DO HAVE!

-frederick keong-

Someone will cherish this!

Answers?

There are so many questions that we ask others and sometimes ourselves. From easy to hard, not multiple choice but even harder than we thought questions. The problem in those questions is figuring out the answers. Sometimes we know them right away, other times we're stuck like a puzzle. Not knowing where to even begin.
I think that many of us get confused in just concentrating on knowing right away the Why's and not actually marinating in the road to get to that answer of Why. Hopefully you understand what I'm saying. But if not, I'm sorry. Maybe this can help: If something happens in our life, maybe a divorce, we would probably see it as a failure. Depending on the situation of course. You go through steps while divorcing, steps that may include sadness, acceptance, depression and moving on with your life.
What we don't see at the moment is that, that exact road that maybe one of our cafemom or facebook friends went through, there's a light at the end of the tunnel. A place where you are actually shinning at the brightest. Brighter than before where ever you were. Getting there is a hard road but you will get to the answer.
There's also questions being asked and while that you go and do something else that will bring up MORE questions. Therefore, getting more confused in what you want in life. (keeping the divorce idea here).
There are times in our lives that we need to be alone and meditate. Mediate about ourselves. get to know the real deep down you, and your needs. not only wants but what you really need next to you, in your life.
Many of us gets confused and asnwer one of their questions by getting into another relationship and it doesn't end up well. Confused again, asking what happen, or maybe thinking it was you when it probably wasn't...means you need time to do what you need for yourself first. if your working, keep working, do more than usual, be better at it. You never know what that place may bring for your life. Take an activity with a friend (or meet new friends there). Maybe like an art class, or do movie night at your place or a friends place. Or a small gathering. If your religious, joining a bible class may help too. If your a teen there's lots of things to do. A grown women with kids, now there's major activities you can do with them. Alone, then do something you usually don't, maybe a writing class, pottery, dance class. Some people tend to write what they feel and actually feel better.
If we are stuck with many questons, lets not expect answers right away. Because what you lost is actually an openning to a better door. Whether is a partner or a pet. We all don't stay or live forever. It does hurt, I know that, there's pain, I know that too. But there's hope also. Hope in that we would see the better tomorrow and the filling it will have to make things better, or at least somewhat.
Please know that if your going through something there are people out there to talk to. And if youfeel you want to talk to be, don't hesitate, I don't judge and I always choose my words carefully.
From my family to yours, Merry Christmas and a Happy New Years!!!

Happy Holidays!!!

From our family to your, MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!
My weekend was great, got all what I needed and gave enough gifts that I needed to give out. Thank GOD I felt that everything went well. My family was over at my house and we were blessed with enough love. I also want to THANK my NEW FOLLOWERS, and for your comments. This week I'll come here more since work will probably be slower.

So how was everyone's holidays? Anything you want to share? I'm sure someone got something extra special :-).

A pic from Macy's decorations for Christmas. Enjoy and be safe my friends!!

Random

I love the fact that I am the type that I prefer to stay home. I feel safer at home. When I'm outside I get paranoid, a little, especially if I'm with my family. I tend to look around alot. Living in the city may have done this but I think its a part of me that has more meaning than just 'living in the city'. These past few days I been up and about, happier than usual. Thanks\ful about everything. Good and bad. Accepting God's given road to me. I  guess what I'm trying to say is that tonight is a little different. My thoughts are else where but my heart is still in wanting to help others. The real question is, right now, who's there for me? God, of course. Next, my family. But you see, sometimes we need those weird stranger talks to make open our eyes more. Sometimes we hear verse ABC from a family and coming from a stranger, verse ABC sounds much more interesting. Somehow we humans do that. When a strangers says the same advice, the same option, the exact opinion about something here in this earth, we tend to accept it faster and with an open brain to what is being said.
Tonight, I will take it easy because is will and hopefully will be, a wonderful day tomorrow! A special day for someone whom I love very much and appreciate EVERYTHING done for me.

In the other side of my brain, been thinking of how some people can't accept their offsprings needs them. If you had your parents why not be a parent to your own.
Thanks for visiting my blog and accepting me on your screen for a few minutes.
Good Night!!

One more...

I get hyped when I hear this one!!!

music.

Just a little upbeat music while I type a new story about life around me. Enjoy!!
http://youtu.be/9zcDr4DbKEg

Fabolous: Everything, Everyday, Everywhere.

Sticking together!

It has come to my attention that many people with higher positions take others as their little piglets for their research. Well, actually that has been going on for a long time. In my opinion, and please your opinions are welcome as well, there's a reseacher and a 'doctor' that think that taking obese children out of their homes to lose weight is a good idea. They put children into foster care until the child, I guess, losses weight. So as I hear that kids are not being taken care of in their foster care and that social workers or social services are so over worked with paperwork and lots of cases, they on top of that, included to take obese kids out of their own home and putting them in stranger homes. I say stranger because foster care is where the family don't know them. Or so.
Also, you take out kids from their normal life to concentrate on losing weight, right? So how about their emotional side when they start missing their mom? or dad? or little sister or brother? and how about their room? their pet dog or hamster? Hmmmm, to think of it, the kids are taken out to get back on track on 'societies' ideal weight...or they won't go home? Again, my opinion, so is this the perspective way we want to show our kids?
The majority already have other issues about weight gain, and to take a 2 or 3 year old out because they are obese ....will make them think: "I was taken from mommy because I am fat". Now this gets me annoyed, especially if someone says that's not going to happen, We as adults would think differently and because of that children will do also. C'mon people, how can some "doctor" of "health" determine that a child has to be taken from home?
If it's because the mother went to get help in a hospital because their child was not feeling well, then guess what...other parents/caregivers out there will think twice about bringing their child to the doctor. They'll be afraid of losing custody of their child. If fear is what you want to produce to parents to lower the obese statistics then you got another thing comming! Out of fear parents will rally against your studies.
I understand people want to help but the idea of taking kids out of their homes is ridicolous! If the parent is trying then get more programs out there to support more children and parents. Hey here's an idea BRING RECREATION (GYM), ART, MUSIC AND SPORTS BACK INTO THE SCHOOL SYSTEM!!!
I think that can help alot into your 'research'!!!
I tend to always look at both sides of the situation, so i understand about helping and doing something about it. But the action is not right. Is like if my neighbors dog keeps barking then I can do my reseach and veto their family pet out? NO, because animals have feelings too.

Well, let me stop here and again, is an opinion expressed here. That's one thing about America, we all can speak our minds and respect each others opinion, To read about this story click the link.
Thanks for coming by today and until next time...be safe!

Link: http://news.yahoo.com/obese-third-grader-taken-mom-placed-foster-care-201731761.html

Familia time.

Thanksgiving was fun!!!!

I had planned it well and it all came out great. Well we, my family planned it out well. The four sisters (not actually sisters but there's a mom, 2 daughters and a grand-daughter), planned and succeded. Some of our cousins came and almost saw one of our other cousins by video. But that didn't go through, another day.
But the turkey was great, pernil, pastelitos (done very well by the youngest of the sisters), tuna salad and more. There was bags with gifts for the little ones too. everyone came out winning! Especially, to those christmas shoppers. I know I did my sneaky online shopping, shhhh its a secret.

I went shopping with my mom and got some nice jewerly, on sale!! And some cute clothing for us too!
Three of the sisters went downtown to catch a movie, "Jack and Jill", yes, it was funny. How I know because the person next to me kept my right eardrum ringing. :-\ Saw a man with REAL rats, colored rats. He actually ran after me but since I yucky rats, I did what I had to do...run!!
I saw John Cena and The Rock...well actually not live. Hehehe. Our night was going so well this Saturday that we went to a live music 70's restaurant and I had a delicious adult drink. By the looks of it, looks healthy but adults would enjoy it more than minors.
I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and is ready to go back to work. I'm ready, mentally but physically I need my bed :-).
Thanks for being here and sharing my wonders of my life on your screen. xo

While you wait...

I don't enjoy when people HAVE to wait for me. Since I don't write much, here's a song from Bruno Mars I enjoy. It's called "It Will Rain".

Youtube link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-w3WfgpcGg

Enjoy!!!

Even on Holidays

There are times that we wished we weren't doing what we're doing as we work, talk, walk or stare out the starbucks window. When that happens to me I go back to thinking positive = I was ment to be here right now because there's something in front of me that I may need in my life. Whether is just a stranger smile, a napkin fell and that Thanks! made me smile a little, or that talk with a friend...reminds me of something special in my life. I know it's hard, for some, really hard to concentrate in life. Especially when your older and think its too late. I realized its never too late. I mean, there are things in life that has time limits but c'mon we can shine somehow, somewhere.  

I know many of us has gone through alot and I know from chats that some decide to leave without being their time to leave. What surprises me is their confusing in whether to go or not. But I take that as a no, they don't want to go. But those who did leave, choosed to leave brings tears in my eyes. For some more because I know them and I wished I could have done more. But I know I can't help everyone (I can try).

One thing I have a hard time figuring out is how some people can "help, stop" a person from leaving this earth just because they are there. Hey, it might help...for a while. But having a baby or going a furture step in life won't make your partner stay and love you like you want it. We have no control, because a certain point in life we will see and realize that it wasn't meant to be, like we wanted. You may have "plans" for your life with a "love" one BUT you don't decide if that goes forward. We have to be thankful for what we have at the moment because tomorrow we are not sure of it.

I have a few friends whom took their lives. It's a sad story becuase I know for one of them I could have helped but I guess it wasn't for me to there for him. Another one, I didn't really communicate with him but its sad how after he got married he went and took his life. As I type this makes me feel this sad emotional part of me feel sooooo sorry for him. For him because I think he did made it know that he wasn't feeling good about his life. And as tears fill my eyes, I feel that he made it known more now that marriage is not the answer to make the person love you or having a baby won't make that person stay, just because you can't seem to realize they don't love you at your way. I don't blame no one for his death and I know alot of people do blame the now widow, but let's think...If my love, my partner whom I LOVE and CARE for to marry him, a man that I choosed to be there for...didn't realize he was depressed/suicidal or any sort of emotional trauma and just go with what I think would be "better for us", how can I not think its my fault after the ordeal? I mean, how can we just think depression will get better because of a marriage or because 'we're having a baby' or because you tattoed his face on your shoulder? We humans need to realize that LOVE does not come just with the hugs and kisses, sex, movies, laughter, and butterflies...it also comes with arguments, with things shared that no one ever would have known until that special someone comes along and trust is built. That sweet true trust, that relationship that no gossip, or look or so called friends can destroy.

After a wonderful time in the cermony or walking down the isle, I don't know how his wife, is feeling. I can't imagine those thoughts she's having but I do wish her the best. I wish and pray that this can be served as an example that making that step in life (not only in marriage but other parts of life) does not make it 'all better'. Young girls (or those older with young minds) it doesn't work for a man to stay if you have his child. It won't work if you do tattoos to dedicate to him, or betray your family for him, or make others think you "living life" because he has money...All that you have can come tumbling down if you think that he or she will stay because of something you will do. Love, stays for great reasons but leaves for better reasons. We have to accept it, whether you got it the wrong or right way. And if someone decides to kill themselves, know that is not your fault. We each own up and make our own decisions, and that's why you have no authority of another body.

Same way they fell in 'love' with you today, tomorrow is a brand new day and brings new steps, new emotions.

My prayers go out those families who lost someone because of suicide. I know it's the day after Thanksgiving but everyday something happens, even on holidays. These are the days we all need to have each others back. May they all R.I.P.
(the picture in this post was googled, not originally mines)

-sweetmanhattangirl-

New Followers

Good afternoon to my new followers...Since I'm still learning this please pardon my updates. Also, not sure how you display yourself on blogger but I see I have more new followers but not sure who it is. I can't seem to see your page. If possible please let me know by replying to this post about you following me. I will follow back.
 HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL!!!

The Truth

Sometimes we get confused about not saying what’s on our minds and then were you right in saying it. In this post I’ll try and get to the point. I have a hard time in saying what I feel to people because I’m usually concern about their feelings. I don’t like making people feel uncomfortable when I’m around. But it has come now that that’s a problem for me. I been taking care of others feelings when in fact who has been taking care of mines?

No one. Of what I have known. So I have been telling the “what’s on my mind” part to the world. Well not the world, certain occasions that I need to in order to have better communication. But I am trying and is going very well so far. I know not all is going to be peachy but we do have to try and better ourselves, somehow.

I kow many of us haven't had the chance to say what's on your mind but we need to take that chance. Not in a bad, negative way but respectful way. If its going to help you then you do it because its your feelings. Just wanted to write this down because I have been trying hard on this. Many have not taken it well but if you come to think of it, they have a problem with accepting others saying no to them or basically telling them what they did is wrong. So remember...Say what you feel respectfully and what they feel is their choice.

You give the output and they way they take it is their problem not yours.

Quotes

Here are some quotes I enjoy reading and the majority may have opened my eyes! I didn't write these myself, unless i put my name after the quote.
Enjoy!!

The most romantic story isn't Romeo and Juliet who died together. But, grandma and grandpa who grew old together.

It's sad to see him hurting you. But the saddest part of all, you allow him to.

Life for Romance

There are many things our loved one would do to be romantic. Some chocolate on Valentine’s day, extra flowers on a “just because” day. How about movie night when you had an argument earlier that day. Or the cutes cupcake for your birthday!
Is very sweet to find other humans who are willing to go a little extra step further to make your day special. And how about a stroll in the city on a horse carriage. Now  that’s a  beautiful scene. But as we are enjoying ourselves, how about that person whom is riding you or that horse that is pulling all three of you. (the carriage rider), what about them? How about just that horse? Is that horse on a given food, water or rest? They all may say yes of course. But what would you think of if your on a romantic ride and the horse pulling you just collapse? You saw he was up and about. He was “fine” because he made noise and walked when instructed. But what you didn’t see was his insides, his organs or maybe feel his emotions? Did you look into his eyes and actually felt what that horse was trying to say? Have you thought that a horse who needs to be in a field with other horse would much rather be in the city “working”, pulling a carriage, without any thanks you’s? Or has that horse have a budget towards his rent? Cable? Cellphone? NO!!! because animals need to be taken care of us humans and not use them to do OUR work like pulling people for their ways of showing affection to others!
If you want to see/ride/pet/talk to a horse then go to a farm. Where they run and play and some actually enjoy the outside world as a place to feel free. Yea, yea, yea I hear already some of you saying “the horses aren’t being mistreated” BUT don’t you think something is wrong with a body (human or animal) that just collapsing is not natural…unless SICK!!!
If this horse was sick then why was he still “working”? I mean I know for a fact horses don’t have to pay rent or can go to a supermarket to buy food for their children, so why in the world would you have or keep a horse from nature in a city pulling a carriage. C’mon common sence people, how would you react if your mother, father or favorite uncle or your wife or husband or your child just collapsed and DIED!!!
I know you would think and scream he/she was sick of something to just died!! Have a heart for these horses too not just your family.

School Fight..

Good Afternoon everyone,
I'm still trying to do a certain thing on my blog to get organized so I can find certain blogs i write faster. Also, easier for you to get with a click of a link but still working on it. So pardon this appearance for now.

Today has caught my attention on the news about a boy who was attacked because of his sexuality. Now, I understand there's a community who don't approve of the LGBT community...but to wait for someone to beat him for his belief or any other things about his/her life is ridicolous.
Did you know there are other people out there who really need a beat down, like those child molesters who don't care about who they hurt, or those fathers who beat their wife and their children for no apparent reason. Or those who are HIV+ and know they have it but still spread the disease. Who needs a beat down now? I am so confused on many people with their strength that they use it for the negative outcomes and not in something that the world needs.
That strength we have, or that anger we have, we need to use it towards getting more funds for the schools in our community, or a center for teens or maybe a pet center. There's always something good to do than just beat the next person because of his sexuality.
Common sense, he wants to like his same sex, then let him. He is a human being and hey, he probably be a parole officer when you beat the next homosexual and you might be in a tighter spot. So think before you speak, or hit.
If you want to read or listen about this boy click at the link provided:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/27/attack-of-gay-student-caught-on-video_n_1035436.html?icid=maing-grid7%7Chp-laptop%7Cdl5%7Csec1_lnk2%7C107982

xoxo

reminder:

The one that ANGERS you

Controls you.

Don't give anyone that power!!

Especially the one that does it intentionally..

Christina Aguilera

kelly Clarkson

Kelly Clarkson Video

Bruno Mars - It Will Rain

Just sharing a new music  addiction I have. Bruno Mars:
Bruno Mars song

Sad story

Good afternoon my friends. Tonight something small got into something big. I recently received an email about horse carriages in NYC. I have joined a group about horses that pull carriages for all occasions in the busy streets of manhattan, nyc. Its nice to be on a romantic date and catch a horse ride in the city. But how fair is it if they don't get enough water or food, or even relaxation. Well a strong group has been trying to make it illegal for horse carriage. Well I think carriages can be use by electricity or having a human ride a bike pulling it.
So, the email was about a dying collapsing in the middle of the stree in nyc. Near 59th street, Central Park. A nice white horse. And when I read and saw the picture I got goosebumps because that same horse I saw on Saturday afternoon. I even took a picture of it and sent it to the group. The reason was still not known because it can mean many things, not neccesarily bad things. I really hope something gets done before the other horses get sicker or in this case, pass away in a busy street.
This is the aspca link if you would like to read on further: http://www.aspca.org/Blog/breaking-news-aspca-responds-to-nyc-carriage-horse-death.aspx

hugs xoxo

A force when we together

Buenas to my friends.
 A day like today is a beautiful day. Not only because I left work early but because it was report card day at my kid school. I got great news again. In a class she didn't do to well but its geometry and its her first year at it. She can make it, we know she can.
Everyday that passes by I come to the same realization that my life is just the way it should be. Whether I have cried blood tears I know that this road is where I should be. With my kid next to me, anything positive is possible. Now I am not gonna like, I have tried to see who's a good man to be a good role model for her. But to be honest, so far only my dad has been here for us. I mean, I have meet good friends but when it comes to her, I can't mix. I feel that they have no 1000% male respect to be there for her in case of anything.
I am working hard for her to know that I am here for her and that I will not exchange her for anyone on this earth. I see how girls choose their boyfriends over their kids because they need "their" happiness as well. But for me, in my brain, I understood you need a man to be happy so you aren't happy with your child? What kind of lame excuse is that. I know we all need that special person to be loved but how can anyone think of themselves when they have a little one or a teen that needs love too? or a teen who's going through their hormonal stage and your not there. Why is it so hard for a women to realize that the sweet human you gave birth too needs you too.
I need my daughter, I need my faith in God, I need my mom. I need to be healthy, I need to live for them and to see what God has for me to help my family.
I'm not saying I don't think of spending my senior years with a special man but what I am saying is that right now, my daughter is my priority. She is the reason God gave to keep on living. I do put God first but He gave me a special reason for my future steps to be positive. That reason is my daughter. Now that she exsist why would I destroy that. I am here because God sent me and maybe along the way I wanted to leave. But with her, my kid, my reason to live, is the reason I am here. I am living.
The force I feel with my faith and her, is a force that only God knows when its time to leave this world and meet again. I know that also, somehow my mother is enjoying her time with her grandaughter in ways that maybe she didn't get to spend with me.
Its hard, its nice and with her we can make it. All of us.

xo

small note...

I just wanted to say that soon I will be updating my blog in designs and organization. I'm saying this because today I saw two beautiful blogs that I admire. Hopefully I become savy like they are. Until then have a good night. 

Halloween?

Hello all,

Haven't been here for a while but I am around. Its October and the weather in NYC is getting nicer. I wanted to share this story I read the other day online. Of course, it disturbed me and my day because there are lots of people who are lost and those who care for them are even more lost than their patients. Now if we have the heart to work with those whom can not take care of themselves why and again I ask WHY would you change to a disgraceful person who mistreats and probably end uo killing the person. I mean, yes we all get tired of the same work routine...BUT have the balls to go back and re-educate yourself to start something new. And not just make others worse than what they are.
If your reading this and your on a verge to go out like The Hulk please, please sit down, breathe and realize you can do another job. Or you can continue to help because when you started you wanted that job.
If your reading this and you actually have someone whom your abusing, maybe a senior citizen or a child who's in a state not to know the different, then your ass needs a kick. Just stop and get out and do something else. paint. draw. sing. dance but please don't continue to hurt those around you whom people are disabled. If your thinking what the hell am I talking about then click this link:
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/10/16/4-disabled-adults-found-l_0_n_1013050.html?1318811161&icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl8%7Csec1_lnk2%7C104856


Now you understand? Good. let's stop the abuse everywhere.


night.
-sweetmanhattangirl-

P!NK

Just thought I share one of my favorite songs from P!NK. enjoy!

You know what hurts the most, when someone who says things to you so simple but hurts deep down. We can brush it off and sometimes even the strongest has invincible tears that show those also unseen the emotional part. What I don’t get it is when someone says they are “respectful” and “treat a woman right” but later along the line, I hear words that are not respectful or make her feel wanted or loved or even friendly. I know we have our days but then again, how would I know your having one of those days? And how would you know that if those words being said has reminded of a past I was trying to forget and you, less than a second brought it back to life. How can a person move on with someone like this near?
Brushing things off is a great way I usually deal with things and I just keep walking. But what happens if it happens with someone I didn’t think it would? Or with a friend whom I thought wasn’t going to throw negatives back at me, dealing not with them but within myself. Was it or is it still wrong to confide in people theses days? For me, yes. And no. Some portray the nice friend one and healthy wise but one little mistake, one teeny weenie mistake can make you go WW3 to WW4 then, I need to question this thing we call friendship
Because you never done knowing or learning from the other, we should be careful what we say to each other. Good and bad stuff. Because closed doors hold a lot of stuff in you can’t just simply assume a happy smiling all day person to be a sunshine’s. Maybe behind those doors she’s/he’s a wreck. So next time someone wants to say a few words, think before you speak. You might just trigger that bullet and your names tattooed to the fine print.

"Nobody can hurt me without my permission."   — Mahatma Gandhi

because chimps can, can I?

Ok, maybe this update will be all over the place because I tend to end up all crazy while saying what I feel so pardon the Russian language J.
We all have our different points of views, opinions, about relationships…many questions I come about and some of them are like WTF!! Yes I know there are no stupid questions or concerns but some are really disappointing because I can’t believe people are…well…closed minded. For instance, I’m not sure if I did write this but I was asked the other day, why don’t I love the person. He asked; really LOVE, like in love. But yet again…I just meet you dude. Please how can you ask me such a dumb question.  I barely know how to pronounce your last name yet alone include the word “love” into any of our conversations. *rolls eyes*
Yea, yea yea Ifor sure he don’t can hear some people say maybe its love at first sight. Ummm, nope!! I don’t “love at fist sight” him and I know  eighter. Long story short, he doesn’t even know what he wants out of his life. I can’t help him in that because I’m still doing me.

Ok, so another thing. Cheating. What is that? What does it constitute? Does it come with a “read before play” book? Yes, I know is a sentimental/hard/emotional/blah blah blah topic but have you actually sat down and thought of that word? For instance, I was in a relationship and we would talk about anything. I mean anything, with respect of course. We would talk about our past relationships, how he was going to marry a girl he thought was in love with. I would talk about myself and the past. No harm done because it was our past and it molded us to people WE liked and enjoyed being with. We would joke around asking what celebrity he would leave me for and vise versa. But this was something we were comfortable talking about, we didn’t mind the answers. If we would go out, he would point out a “very pretty girl” and I would ask why that one…etc. We both were comfortable in talking about things that at the end of the day we only had eyes for each other. We wouldn’t mind if the other said a nice compliment about someone else. Why we didn’t mind because we were comfortable within ourselves that when we came about to compliment each other it was done bigger and sweeter and better than any other compliment towards another. For example, he loves long hair. I have long hair and if he saw a pretty lady with well kept long hair (that would stand out) then he would tell me about her BUT within that week as we heading out, he would say something like , “wow your hair looks extra long today, I love it”. Now he didn’t have to say that for me to feel secure because I was already secure with him. So rambling on about this leads me to a friend of mine asking me that why I accepted my boyfriend cheating on me, or “looking for someone else”. I asked why was that question raised and all because a simple compliment was made from him to a stranger. What was said “Hello beautiful, enjoy your day thanks for the follow”. Yes, it was online to a total random stranger who lives OVER SEAS!!!!!
Wow!!! I should have beat him to death and run away with his money…right? WRONG!!! What’s so wrong about a compliment to someone else? Especially to someone you don’t know and doesn’t in no way, shape or form live near you. I mean, I understand, some people may be saying why he say beautiful or any other word that describes her…prettiness? I know some girls and guys don’t like for their partner to say things like that but c’mon. if you both are in love and know your partner is faithful and hasn’t given you reason for doubts why start now, with a simple compliment to another. I mean, are you that insecure that someone over seas, a total stranger will take your love away? Hey sorry to burst your bubble, it fucking happens but when your partner has shown love to you and is always there, 24/7 talking with you then lets be open minded, he/she won’t leave. A true love won’t leave with all the doors in the world open for them to take that step. I know some of us have trust issues and prefer not to go there, and that’s fine. But if your basing on just that and make your life a turmoil for a simple compliment then you got another thing coming to you. That’s called darkness! In order for us to get back on love, find love or even be open for love, we have to trust ourselves that we won’t do the same steps to fall for someone who won’t stand by you. Because trust is a big issue, a lot of us end the relationship that could have been a good one all because one simple mistake. Remember no one is perfect. But if you make your life a turmoil just for a simple compliment or go to the extremes that you “can’t believe this is happening” to the point you ain’t eating then O-M-G!!!! Sister or brother you need to get back on that “read before play” book because if one little mistake as a compliment to a stranger, or a look to a stranger bothers you then your NOT healthy enough to be in a relationship. Seriously, I have meet guys who don’t like their girlfriends looking up at guys when they go out. Please, how in the world would I look down onto the floor because some strange man is just passing by. C’mon, that’s not healthy and not right. We have eyes to look and mouth to say what we feel. If a simple look or compliment  to another human being bothers you then you gotta recheck your X/Y chromosomes because something is not adding up. WTF!!! How can someone have such low self-esteem that bothers them to an extreme to go back and not trust. Yes, I know many of us have been through a lot but aren’t you fucking tired of crying and thinking how can they do this or that. Aren’t you fed up with just eating macaroni & cheese and not that steak with a friend or love?
You know what alot of us think we are "ready" to be in a relationship but if we say we got trust issues and our partner just doesn't understand then I suggest you to have patience with yourself. Patience because if your not in the place you want to be, that's because you still have a few more screws to fix up in your life. so relax and don't rush. help yourself love yourself so when the next good thing comes along, you'll know if thats a keeper! Otherwise people with just play games with you and say "fuck it".

Que Cute...

http://youtu.be/GPj7I6uizFw

watch this youtube video of Stewie and bachata! I found it cute!

Funny Foe?

I'm laughing. Yes laughing. The stories I hear from day to day is funny but true. I mean, can this shit be real? First, he talks like he's the man (idontthinkso), he's always sad (says girls play him), he thinks he's a good catch but always meets bad girls. Soooooo let's hold it right there from all the other info I want to share but is not that relevant right now... "good catch but ends up with bad girls". Ok people now tell me how this sounds: He tells you he wants you, now we know how. He says he's been looking for someome like you...insists on doing things and conversations are based on s*x only. Hmmmmmm, now what was that thing that was said earlier...oh yea and he's religious. yea....ok.....sure thing. Soooooo he talks about sex 24/7 but has a hard time finding a good girl to be with...but you talk about more sex and more sex just to see where she's coming from? FUCK NO!!! Please my goodness, little boys these days think women fall for shit like this. He can't even dress proper for a simple picture. I mean how are you going to talk about your God and then do the opposite. Don't you think your setting yourself on fire right there.
It's a lost case when a person is in denial, and by all means, this guy is totally in denial of everything. So sad to see a good game lost.

till next time.

14 years ago...

14 Years ago was the best day, happiest moment in my entire life. I was scared out of my bones but was happy at the same time. Of course, I was showing off my grills the whole time hahaha! It was a moment that all worries were left aside and for once I felt at ease. Not mattering anything but the presence that I was holding. I know many of us would say of course it was a happy moment; it would be with anyone in the same position. And I do agree but I like to see mines as a very special moment. Because I was younger than most of my friends when they had children, and because where I was in life, was turning into an impact that would have probably affected a lot of the people I love. But when God does his wonders, he really does them. 14 years ago, approximately at 6:30 AM on a Sunday morning, of what I remember it was a nice day outside, being summer too. I was giving birth to a baby, not knowing the gender but I was sure of what to name my baby. It wasn’t a long birth, maybe 15-20 minutes. My mom and sister, the people whom I love were there (and the doctor and nurses of course). I remember people asking me the gender and I had decided to keep it hidden even from myself. I sorta kind of had a gut feeling of what gender my baby was but never told anyone. I had a name picked out and was very sure that was going to be the name. I didn’t care who criticized it because hey I was still a teen and I would have kicked their ass, with belly and all hahaha!

Until my baby Amanda was born. Yep, I knew it was a girl and her name picked out by me was given to her. The doctor holder her up and said, Congratulations you have a beautiful babygirl. With needles on me (IV) and probably in pain, I was smiling, my doctor smiled back at me. I remember the nurses put her in a small crib/bed like and cleaned her off. She was wide awake the entire time, she even sucked her pinky, and everyone stood silent looking at her. I guess Amanda, being born a second ago, noticed because she stopped and just stared at something in the air… In other words, telling us “there’s nothing wrong with sucking my picky”. J And there wasn’t until she grabs a white cord near her crib, as nurses were with her. That’s right, you read right, being wide awake, sucking her pinky then playing with a white cord pulling it towards her. It was a “WOWZERS” moment for us all in the room. I mean she was just born how she starts going about playing. I was so happy that my face hurt from smiling, I held her and she looked at me and went to sleep.

(tears of joy as I write this, excuse me.)

Ok, so she went to sleep on my arms. My sister went to sleep to but not in my arms, hahaha! My mom was there looking at Amanda and smiling. Ok so this was 14 years ago and I still get teary when I think about that day that God gave me the best gift ever that I could have. I mean, what else I can ask for other than having Faith in Him to lead her the right way and look over her. Right now I’m not even 30 yet, and I have a teen that’s 14 years old today. Yes, today the 29^th of June. We have reached so much and I am happy to say that Amanda is a smart girl. From a very young age she always wanted to know more…more…and more. Remember those “why” questions well I started getting them when she was 1 years old. Even when the lights change she would tell me, why it changed. Then “Goooo” because the light changed for us to cross.

Amanda, around 10 months she calls my sister. Everyone is wide eyes open. Who she calls, my sister, Why? Because that’s the name she keeps hearing a lot. What other beautiful name could she have said. J Then started walking, by 1 she was already pulling on my leg because she wanted more milk. Now this little midget was too cute for words. Very small and walking around the house like she owned the place. Hahaha! By 2 years old she had her ABC’s, colors and shapes and a few written words integrated in her brain. I started playing “teacher and student”, we had a desk and a wall. White paper on the wall as a black board (too young for the dust of those blackboards) and markers for her to see the difference when she had a wrong answer. She had tests and lunch time, just like school. Lunch was given by the lunch lady who was grandma at this point. Amanda, sitting at her desk, paper ready to start doing her math (yes math at almost 3), with her pencil. Fridays was test day. She would have to practice on her desk and at exactly 10AM her test began. At first she would take her time to do it then it was time limited. I was to grade her while she went to lunch. Her test paper was put facedown on her desk so when she came in she would be quietly in her chair, to wait for her teacher…me, the mommy J. Of course, she would pass her test, but if she has one little mistake, her eyes would get watery and BAM!!! That’s when I knew (after a few watery eyes) this child doesn’t like to be wrong. I kept telling her it’s ok because there are more tests and we don’t have to know everything but she insisted to retake the test. A 3 year old now, and asking me to retake a test. WOW!! So when she did and got a perfect score she would have the rest of the day off from school and played all day. Every day we played “teacher and student” and every 3^rd day was a different subject because she has enough time to learn materials. This kept on going and she because smarter, baby Amanda was getting smart and by the time she started Pre-K, she was very well advanced for her age. She had to be included with some 4 years old who didn’t know what she knew. I was told she was born a leader because she is the first one up to help and guide the students. My baby, a leader, making mom and lunch lady aka Grandma very proud!!! Into first grade, same thing, a leader. Always good grades, well behavior and eager for more info into her brain. Time passed and I always got good news from her teachers. Some of them were my teacher when I was younger, so I was at ease when heading to my school and leaving hers at her own school.

Now, from 6^th to 8^th grade was the best for me. It was like a turn around for her. I have noticed her eagerness grow even more and being acknowledge for it made it even better. First year (6^th) in a new school she became Honor Roll student, every report card time, she was in it. Teachers were great, made her feel that she can do anything as long as she put effort into it. Happy to say that now I have a 14 year old. I have teen that in less than 2 months will be in high school. Not scared but eager to see what the new rode has for her, for us. What new ability will she bring home, what news will she accomplish as a growing teen. She’s 14 and getting here means a lot to me. From family, to great friends to great not so good friends, I want to thank you all for having an impact in my life. Whether is good or bad, you molded me to become this person who I am happy to be and that I am alive to take care of my child. A child who gives me the energy to get up and work for her because she deserves that and more.  I don’t feel old but I do feel entering another level of “over protection-FBI status-bf drama-bigger bills” type of upgrade. I mean, what mom doesn’t love their kid that will not be the child’s FBI agent…Like I tell my daughter…”I am over protective because I love you, because I care for you and if a mom doesn’t care then all things will be different, wanna try the difference?” and of course she says no and we live happily ever after.

Well, not actually because she’s still growing and I’m into my files to see who-what-where-why and the how’s in her life. Right now I’m enjoying our time, our growth. Because this comes once in a life time, you’ll always be my baby. Whether your 80 and I’m right around the corner with my cane, I will always love you and you’ll always be my baby, protecting you, caring for you. Remember, a mother’s love never ends, not even if bad things are said or their child becomes a criminal, A mother’s love is always there.

Oh, and no your not becoming a criminal, is an expression so keep up with the good work and get farther in life.

Happy birthday Amanda!!! It’s your day to Live, Laugh, Love with Faith. God Bless You!!! Remember that no matter what happens tomorrow, I will be here for you, taking care of you and loving you!!

XOXOX, Your mom.

Fish or Shark...?

..He said, he can better. The question is can HE do better for HIMSELF to get someone better than me? The future will have the answer until then girl, work your ass off!!!

Ladies, (men too of course)...our heart is one special organ that we need to take care of. Not just health wise but also by the emotions we go through and will go. We gotta go smart about it too. I mean we all have or will soon have that special LOVE that will make us cry like there was no tomorrow. But one thing I can assure you is that, that love that made you cry will soon become a strength in you that you won't let a person take advantage.
You'll know the difference from when the other person is just into games. I have meet a quite few handsome guys in my life and the downfall in some of these men was that they couldn't keep it real. That's one thing, we need to be. Real. If all they want is s*x then let them say it. Nothing wrong in saying it, accepting it, thats on you.
I know, in teens is harder when it comes to that LOVE they have, I been there and probably all those adults some of you don't get along with, have gone through it too. Just that some adults don't remember the "feeling(s)". That's one thing, teens think that adults don't understand them but we do. Just that some don't REMEMBER those exact feelings your going through. Being that we been there done that, it makes it surely easy and with an assurance to say that "you will get over it". No matter where the road takes you, you will remember but look forward. Just remember that there is a tomorrow and there's more fishes in the sea. Some of them will seem better than others but you, as you grow will know the type of person you will like to love.
Some say, that we can't control whom we love? and I wonder why is that. Since alot of people don't like to be told what to do or like to be in charge...then why not be in charge of who you fall in love with? it is YOUR emotion, your heart. Don't you have a say in whom you want to spend your life with? Since some saying all you need is love...what about assurance, what about trust, or communication. I mean sure love is in the list but we also need to be sure of the other person. Your not gonna tell me your in love with someone who just can't seem to stay in one job becuase he doesn't like to be told what to do. Ummmmm, yea its called Go get a higher degree for a better position then. Unless they dealing drugs i don't know the ranks in that. Then theres we can't control our emotions...? Really...Your telling me I have total control of who ever is reading this and turn their moment upside dowm? If you answer yes, your right. I can say or probably have said a few things and not be in that persons good list. But then again, should I care and just keep writing? I mean this is MY blog, my opinion. As you have, I also have an opinion. But ok lets get back to track.

There are times when I hear that you can't control who you love but I also wonder, why can't we. If I can walk away from a stranger calling me names, or some pervert in the train...or even stop myself from having a fling with a guy who ain't worth it, then why can't I control my Love part?
For me, personally, the first love is a big one. No control. Yep, no control. BUT afte that I believe we do have some control in that. Because we do have priorities, we don't fall in love with a married man. Now if you say, why is not you planned it, then your wrong. How did you fall in love with a married man...you must have spent time with him to get to know him. Why would you in the first place if he is already taken? So in that situation you can definately control yourself and keep walking.

Fishes are many, some are tangled in their own wines of their own homes, while others roam around finding other fishes or ducking from sharks...those are the bigger types of fishes that know what they want and probably would have the balls to tell you, its simply pleasure no emotions included and have a steady way of living life that when it comes down to love, settle down, they are man enough to accept they love you too.. Now those, if your lucky grab one and study them. He's single then don't let go because some other fish out there will.

Love is so beautiful and if you look closely you can hear it. Just be patient when meeting someone, it doesn't work out, move on to other fishes. Just be clean about it and hold your head up high no matter what. Until then, see you next time.

xoxoxo

Opinions

Hello Beautiful World,

I have been missing some days here but I'm still around. Not alot has happen but one thing caught my eye and my thoughtie nerve. Now we all know how is hard raising our kid(s) in a world that has so many corners and ideas of what we "should" be like. First, let me say, I am not against anyone who is GLBT but does include a little on the life style.
Ok, so a mom decides to name her kid a cute name. Cute enough even for a boy or girl. No worries because names we can change along the way. Let me cut this short, in my opinion (which we all are entitled to) this lady is doing an experiment with her kids. LOL. I am including a link but seriously, letting your kid(s) decide in what they want to be a male or female, or dress as a girl being a boy. THEN the son says he wants the peeople to know he is a boy. DING DING DING!!!!! Helloooooo is your son telling you something. He knows he is a boy, he wants it to be known.

smh, another thing, her son(s) is being homeschool. Why? Is there a reason you don't want them to see the world? I mean if you sooooo want them to pick what they want to be or "discover what they want to be", then let them see their choices out in the world... Let them go to school, interact with others, let them feel what it is to be where they are. I'm not wishing for bulling for them or any kid, but to me it seems that you want a shortcut to the teachings of motherhood.

Lets think about this...
GirlA- grows into teens to have a strong head on her shoulders that she knows she is capable of deciding what she wants. She dresses boyish because its comfortable, nothing wrong with that.
GirlB- quiet, smart, also knows what she wants, dresses femine, too introvert because lack of communications to the outside (school or other)
BoyA-likes to dress as a girl at home only, know he is a he, strong, talkative, making sure others knows he is a male by his playful actions or gestures. Too outthere, in other words, needs to let others know who he is.
BoyB-dresses like a boy, because lack of communication too quiet, confused at certain things in life,

I don't want to make this long but eightor way, as we grow we each learn that people out there will make fun of others. Because of this we as parents have this protective instinct for our kids, but letting them to "discover themselves" seems too naive to me, especially at what 2, c'mon. We are here to guide them and this is not guiding this is letting them think MORE than "Can I get more ice scream".

Ok, you are doing this...but do we not think how the later days, weeks, years will be like for them. Is there going to be a confusing as in "mom you should have told me I can't wear pink". (BoyA)
In my opinion, if a mom choses to raise her kids another form, then its fine but think about it in the future too. I know many of us wants to make a point to the world, but sometimes we go a little to far, in respect to this mom and her family, a little to far to use our kids and test the waters out.

I really hope her method works out somehow, because I am not thinking of how bad she will look if it doesnt....I'm thinking more of the childrens self esteem and way of thinking towards the world. If we look closely we can find that the world is a nice place to live, even with those idiot comments that some humans make.

I do wish her well and all.

ekkkkk!!! xoxo

ps read the comments in link
http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_thelookout/20110524/ts_yblog_thelookout/parents-keep-childs-gender-under-wraps

Mom

Hello Beautiful World,

Today a special day for all Mothers out there. Not only those who gave birth but for those who took in children who need a parent, that care that their own couldn't give. I saw many people today around my community buying beautiful flowers, Edibles (fruits), restaurants busy all day. A day that alot of women were recognixed and thanked.
I wanted to thank my mom for her tough but learning upbringing. If it wasn't for her my road would probably be in a different setting. Every time I am confused about something or feel like riding off the rode, she just tells me some words and her encouragements pull me back on track. 
My faith has grown more because of her, the way I look at things calmer is because of her. I am more alert than ever because of my parents. I know what I NEED in my life and the type of people that are right to be trustworthy to be near them. 
I want ot thank her because I am strong because of my mom.

My strength 
My faith
My way of living the right way
My ideal thoughts of love
With her teachings, My everything has become better.
And with God of course, all has been in place because is a place we can handle right now.

I hope everyone had a wonderful day today!!
xoxo

Sad News

 First and foremost, my condolensces to my friends family that lost a son this week. My family will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Hello World,

This week has been a sad one for two family. One of them, I have known the mom for a while because of volunteer job I did. Other I known because child goes to a near by school.
One 14 year old (near by school) who had suffer seizures had one and was in the shower. He went straight to coma and unfortunately, he passed away on Tuesday. One of his teacher had visited him before, next day the kids had test but I think they canceled it because of him. And kids weren't in their right state of mind thinking of their friend. It's a shame how a boy who is about to graduate 8th grade passes away. I know God has his reason and no yes, he is in a better place where he will feel more comfortable and happier with what God has for him. I do feel sadden for his family, being so young this boy. I'm sorry for your loss C.M. familia.

The second one was next morning, a friend calls the house to say our other friend had lost her son. That he was killed. Shocked, frozen in place, but why? I mean how can someone WE know die. Of course, I see it now, it can happen to anyone and anywhere. I'm still shocked because this is a friends son. A son who's mother I chatted with, a mom who did everything for her children. Very sad.
I can't imagine the emotional rollercoaster that this mom is feeling. The trauma she will feel when she sees grandkids and feels someone missing. i don't wish her no negativity but I am speaking my mimd out. Being a paraniod parent, not sleeping well because some nights I will be up checking if my kid is breathing, is something that I can manage now. But going through something worse, I will definately black out. Lord, you know what road you give to each mom with their kids. And I am sure you have your reason for this. Maybe this son is better off with him near you than anyone else. Maybe his road was served better as an angle to look after his family. Maybe you Lord, saw here in the ground his actions were too intense and his mind will be at ease to help out his family from above. Because he is strong enough to be with you and cherish his family as it should. Because you, Lord know that his life is precious in a way that he needed to be an angle in heaven.

There are somethings I don't understand but somehow writing here, helps me out a bit to understand. or should I say have a slightly understanding of why. It is hard to lose someone you love. it's a hard rough road but I have heard it gets better within time. Better as in you accept and are at ease with the beautiful memories shared. I don't know what to say to things like this but what I know is that you, P.S. (mom) you will be alright. because you will have friends and family to comfort you in a way you never realized they could. We love you no matter what in this world.

Link: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/ny_crime/2011/05/03/2011-05-03_geuris_tejada_24yearold_father_shot_dead_after_fight_with_three_people_in_manhat.html

There mothers out there who cherish their kids, even if they are criminal, but then there are females who have a child but don't deserve to be called mothers because of the horror they do to their child. For exampl, 11 year was in forster care because mom sold drugs, was taken by a pedophile who made her do things that when she escaped was angry. Can you imagine a 11 year old being sold to men who are pedophiles. No? neightor can I. Neightor can I.http://www.nydailynews.com/ny_local/2011/05/01/2011-05-01_sexslave_horror_story_for_a_little_girl.html

 Or how about a kid found eating herself in a cage: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2011/05/04/2011-05-04_virginia_girl_found_eating_herself_in_cage_in_mobile_home_parents_brian_and_shan.html

Solve Me?

Hello World,

Another beautiful day like today. Well I was told recently, that I was a person that couldn't be 'solved".

Are you laughing, because I am, LOL!!! I was laughing then felt bad for this guy because if he has told this to other girls, which I am sure he did, man he's gonna have a heck of  girl problems. So I'm looking back at his dilema, Yes dilema, he says the regular lines that guys say and I laugh because he thinks that I (and all) will believe him. I mean are you fucking serious that on the 3rd text I am going to say "I Love You". Puff outta here boy!!

We don't know each others twitter page and you think I will be all snugglie with you. Nah! So because we all know that ALL types of relationship take time, he assume (HATE that), so he asumed that there was a "we" already. Ummmm, no! because I was taking my time and living my life, not revolving in his life, I was a person I couldn't be "solved".

Now where would someone get that phrase to say to someone? You want to solve me, you want to know everything and do what with it? use it against me. First of all you can't use it against me because there is no way shape or form, that you or anyone can solve me. Or any other person. there's no solving anyone. You have to be an idiot to say that.

So as the beautiful days pass and I still keep myself happy, because I do own myself, then I am being compared to someone who, lets say is not walking on the right path in life..And again I laugh because if someone would want to TRY and make me feel bad, then do it with someone who is actually up there. Up there in life. LOL!!

I wanted to share this now because before, in my youthful years, still young though, lol, I use to let it get to me but now, I just brush it off! I listen and study the person who tells me stupidity and realize, baby your worse than thet shit I left before. So I keep walking and when it comes to try and stop me....Boy, the look in my eye tells it all.

OK, I know, many guys/girls need to grow up but I'm talking personal here so pardon the dummies out there but you need to step your game up. Some of you wonder why you can't be with one girl, stop wondering because if your on Facebook and talking to all these girls, saying the same stories and you will get busted...you then delete those conversations when girls ask you specific questions about it...you nerve up and disappear. LOL!! Funny right, then please play the game right, otherwise, leave it for the men out there who can satisfy the girls and still leave with dignity.

C'mon, don't say you don't it...We all done it, at least one time. And enjoyed it, hehehe.

Now I can talk forever on this, but like I have said before, I am someone who you can't solve. We always try and pretend to solve someone else's problems when you need to STFU and solve yours first. Me, I am a female that you may think I am one way but please don't under estimate the quiet.

You can't solve something you don't hear or know. Study first then talk to me.

xoxo

-sweetmanhattangirl-

continuation...

from the post before this one...

Hello World,

I wanted to post something about this for a while but I will not take too much of space for this because it's an ongoing action happening. Happening everywhere, behind closed doors. Other times, outside.

Do you remember one night when your neighbor was making too much nosie? Or when there was an all-of-the-sudden- rumble from upstairs? How about when a scream was heard then silence? Or kids running everywhere and a deep voice screaming? Have you even wonder what can it be.

Maybe some chairs or a sofa being dragged from one room to another. Or was daddy playing with the kids. How about if something fell from the top cabinet and no one was home.

We don't know exactly until something in the air isn't right the next day. I have written a few things to post here but somehow I lost it. But please, don't feel bad about my opinions here. Afterall, we can all have a Voice! So start talking...

Domestic Violence, from physical to emotional and mentally. DV, something most of us ladies are afraid to tell others if they are going through it. I have spoken with alot of new friends and some others online and alot of us ladies do go through DV. (there's other topics but another post) Well the majority are scared and need time to get ready to leave. Ready as in employement, school or even having a plan to escape. Yes, escape. Can you believe that? Someone who probably took vowels with you, and your family there to hear it and all of the sudden you feel his smack. (DV can be towards males too but this post is about females). 

How can someone that you love and LOVES you back, have the courage or low mentality to smack or kick you, or degrade you with words that you hear in highschool. There's no reason why a love one should hurt a human being they love! For this post I will say "him" as the abuser. Not saying it's all the males fault. 

There are times I get scared and angry when I hear he hits her. Scared because one day I'll end up hearing she died because of him and angry because she couldn't step up for herself. Since he uses all types abuse, starting from making her feel bad about herself and upgrading it for her to feel that she is not worth to get help or anything. There are reasons why a man would change, could be that he going through some unconscious dilema from his childhood rape, or seen DV at home when he was a kid himself. But if you know as an adult whats wrong and right, why choose to hit your partner. Is there something you want to control from her, because if she has been there for you and is doing something out of her life for you and the kids...why bring that down?
I get that some ladies can't get out because of financial needs, lack of qualifications for job(s), no real close realiable friends or family...BUT there is a door. To everything in life there's a door, to escape from what your going through. It may take time and patience but if your going though this, make a plan to escape.
I remember when I was younger my family use to tell me, "if a man tries to touch you or hit you, you have to kick his balls"..lmao!!! funny but true. Otherwise, cook him a good meal and "serve" it to him. Serve it hot because every hungry man deserves a well cooked meal, right ladies. I learn that from Madea. Remember her? Well google her and you'll see.

To end this, I want to say that next time, you see a smiling, happy lady and you want to degrade her or act stupid with her (both genders) then think twice. Because she may be at the supermarket all lovely but behind her closed doors, she may be another type of lady. An abused one, a lady who feel unworth and scared to say something. Just smile at her, it goes a long way for her.

Thanks for reading will update more on this as my time is not too occupied.
xoxox
-sweetmanhattangirl-

Many can be describe to each and every one of us. But only you know the real you. Many can try and read you but we are good liers when it comes to true deeper feelings. I'm not adding a topic to this yet or the post but it's something I will update next.

To be continue...

-sweetmanhattangirl-



Peculiar Amor?

Love:  Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment.  (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love)


How many of you need someone else to feel loved? Meaning, as a partner. Now I’m not talking about you say “no I don’t need someone” then a week later you are thinking you need a bf or gf. I’m talking about how many of you feel that you need someone else there for you to hug you, to call you…to love you? I’m assuming everyone is nodding their heads because everyone needs love. But now-a-days people tend to just accept who ever comes in their way. In order to feel the love or to say they have someone. This is not about that, what I am trying to say is, why can’t we feel full enough to meet someone to feel even fuller…fuller of love, fuller of more hugs. I know a few people who “need” to feel the love from another human being. They mourn like someone close to them has perished. But, take a look at yourself, do you think someone who is in the right place in their life, a person who is ready to give love because they have enough to share, would be with someone who everyday mourns? Or with someone that with one simple argument turns you into a total opposite person and who knows what you will do when you each go to work? I mean, I know there’s special love out there. Love that will accept just how you are. But maybe you’re looking for a certain love that is not suitable for you right now. Maybe the love you need to give and receive right now is from those around you. Maybe like your mom, dad or even your kids. Could be from anyone. Ok let’s make an example:

Married couple with children. They both work, kids are good in school. Both grandmothers alive, united family. Sisters, brothers, cousins, good friends…etc. But within all this one can feel lonely, but a mom of her true love and word will try her very best to make sure she is full in heart, mind, body and soul with Faith, to make herself happy with what she has, with your own little ones. She’s falling in love with another man. Now, yes it does happen but my question would be. Why would you if the person your with, husband/partner, is still in your same bed? Walks around like all is peachy, plays the role of “wifey” but then again sees another “love”. Then you go to bed with your partner but yet you cry because you “love” someone else. *laughs* this laugh is not joyful, it’s a laugh of “WTF” is wrong with you. You have a partner, you have your kids, a home, and a family and yet you need to act in a vicious way to bring down what you wanted a few years back, a family. Other girls would love to be in your place and cherish that.
Some of us “try” to change or thinks if no one gives them the chance then why bother to change. C’mon ladies, we are strong individuals that change for us, according to our terms. You don’t need some other humans’ approval or acceptance in order to show any types of changes you’re going through. A women who wants something for her better, gets it. But I am not saying like that little story I just typed, fix what you have first to open another chapter in your life. And if you’re in that position, think of what your teaching your kids. Yes, they do see and hear what your doing. Remember what you heard or seen, exactly.
Many would probably criticize of what I say but hey, it’s my blog and opinions are welcomed. Being single doesn’t mean you are not worthy of finding that special someone, for me it means. You are molding your life, your emotions, your love so when that special arrives you’ll know how to react in accordance. There’s no handbook for love but I know that in my road, with God by my side, I am being molded a good way to appreciate a good man. Because many have those sweet simple love but for me, I want that weird goofy peculiar love. That love that makes me say “OMG I would have never thought of that”. A love that is not only based of the big things but the simple ones. That even a simple walk will makes us grow fonder of each other. A love that is speechless in a peculiar way.

One day we all will find that special love. the love that we need at the right moment. And with Faith, we will get it. Just have patience, and along the way make the right choices, behave, so when it’s here. You can have your head up high and know that your road is safe to retrace.

Peculiar love is what I think I need. At the right time, I’ll know and feel safe to accept it. Till next time friends.

xoxo -sweetmanhattangirl-

sickness?

Hello World,

Hope everyone is doing good. Well as some of know the world is filled with good and bad but since I don't watch alot of TV because of the badness in the news...I saw a few things online that not only shocked me but confused me as in to why? (links in the bottom)

Now I may be here typing away but my kid is around me, if she gets up, I'll keep an open eye and ear. But others will continue like nothing is happening and everything will be ok. Moms on facebook and their 13 month old baby drowing in their family bath tub....ummmm yea that's a big no-no. Then your child drowns and some of us mothers come with the greatest excuses and think the world will take it. Newsflash, the world of your own home can be warmth but outside is another story.
Now why in the world would a mom leave their baby unattended in a bathtub? her reply" "Not to baby him". Really? are we that naive and stupid to think your going to baby your baby? C'mon you gotta do better than that, oh yea she said she was on "facebook". I slightly laughed at this because FB (facebook) will not leave, its a multimillion dollar website that will be there for your convinience but you choosed that.
I don't want to get into this too deep because my goodness my brain won't be relaxed to sleep tonight. So I'll leave it at that. Another topic later on will do. Have a good night all.

xoxo

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/2011/04/16/2011-04-16_mom_whose_baby_drowned_while_she_was_on_facebook_sentenced_to_10_years_in_prison.html

Mom killes herself and kids

I found this article and it's from Upper manhattan, nyc. near the GWB. I'm sharing the link then adding a blog about this. For now, read and comment on what you feel towards this.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/04/14/lashanda-armstrong-distra_n_849141.html?icid=main%7Chp-laptop%7Cdl1%7Csec1_lnk2%7C209804

Fully Believe

Hello World,

This weekend went great for me, spiritually and my strength in helping others increase. But somehow, I have a thought in mind about people accepting their flaws. Many of use are ignorant in that category, and it’s not a insult. I am ignorant in biology hahaha. Well I am not sure why I keep this special person in mind. I don’t think much of this special person but the actions they take are confusing in what is being written by him. I know I can’t save everyone and not everyone is really looking to be saved, but just want to look for attention. But this special person gives me more energy in how not to be in my life. It’s not an insult but my insight about myself, accepting who I really am. Whether bad or good.
We humans are programed to lie, cheat, smile, run and all that. We are taught on how to be a nice well mannered human being. But when all this doesn't won’t matter? When does a human being stop being considerate of others feelings? I guess, when our loved ones just don’t care. So we feel hurt and consciously don’t care either. I understand everyone goes through different things in life, I understand it does take time to pass through a bumpy road. But if you are speaking about faith and God and how each of us should accept each other as friends, faithful brothers and sisters, why aren’t you keeping your word alive? I mean, I understand we are not perfect and we tend to fall off track but how about when you turn to that caring into not caring in s second? How can someone live life in a way that lies to get into someone else’s pants? How can you say you need friends and when you have new ones they run away within the first week?
Is it because you immediately talk about real love and you needing something? How can you fall in love with someone you just meet? It can happen but the way you are makes me think, its not safe for people to do that. If the faith of God is helping you and your deleting those who wish bad to you, why delete them when your Lord tells you to love your enemies. Keep them closer. Why are you putting others down when they say the truth? Is it because its hard to listen and fully understand that you as a human being need spiritual guiding. How can anyone help if you harassing girls left and right. Some are even friends, some are family and you become in between for what? To create an obscured scene so others can see you’re the one? The one what?, the one that lies and cheats? It all goes back to you my special friend. I don’t like putting others down but lies have been thrown like candy in a piñata and you need to see that what you’re doing is a negative thing to others and yourself. Your going to end up alone if you don’t wake up and pay attention to what you really need in life.
Accept your ways of treating others, accept that your in denial about your obscured ways, accept it all from your heart not just your lips. Don’t think every person out there need to see certain things from you to feel accepted or loved. You’ll only cheat yourself and be unhappy.

We all go through different situations but this case, I wanted to put it out there because its something I don't understand. I may have understood but how can a brain say yes but then fall into the trap of feeling not there? I guess that's another day, another post. 
Until then my friends, be safe!

*kiss kiss*