continuation...

from the post before this one...

Hello World,

I wanted to post something about this for a while but I will not take too much of space for this because it's an ongoing action happening. Happening everywhere, behind closed doors. Other times, outside.

Do you remember one night when your neighbor was making too much nosie? Or when there was an all-of-the-sudden- rumble from upstairs? How about when a scream was heard then silence? Or kids running everywhere and a deep voice screaming? Have you even wonder what can it be.

Maybe some chairs or a sofa being dragged from one room to another. Or was daddy playing with the kids. How about if something fell from the top cabinet and no one was home.

We don't know exactly until something in the air isn't right the next day. I have written a few things to post here but somehow I lost it. But please, don't feel bad about my opinions here. Afterall, we can all have a Voice! So start talking...

Domestic Violence, from physical to emotional and mentally. DV, something most of us ladies are afraid to tell others if they are going through it. I have spoken with alot of new friends and some others online and alot of us ladies do go through DV. (there's other topics but another post) Well the majority are scared and need time to get ready to leave. Ready as in employement, school or even having a plan to escape. Yes, escape. Can you believe that? Someone who probably took vowels with you, and your family there to hear it and all of the sudden you feel his smack. (DV can be towards males too but this post is about females). 

How can someone that you love and LOVES you back, have the courage or low mentality to smack or kick you, or degrade you with words that you hear in highschool. There's no reason why a love one should hurt a human being they love! For this post I will say "him" as the abuser. Not saying it's all the males fault. 

There are times I get scared and angry when I hear he hits her. Scared because one day I'll end up hearing she died because of him and angry because she couldn't step up for herself. Since he uses all types abuse, starting from making her feel bad about herself and upgrading it for her to feel that she is not worth to get help or anything. There are reasons why a man would change, could be that he going through some unconscious dilema from his childhood rape, or seen DV at home when he was a kid himself. But if you know as an adult whats wrong and right, why choose to hit your partner. Is there something you want to control from her, because if she has been there for you and is doing something out of her life for you and the kids...why bring that down?
I get that some ladies can't get out because of financial needs, lack of qualifications for job(s), no real close realiable friends or family...BUT there is a door. To everything in life there's a door, to escape from what your going through. It may take time and patience but if your going though this, make a plan to escape.
I remember when I was younger my family use to tell me, "if a man tries to touch you or hit you, you have to kick his balls"..lmao!!! funny but true. Otherwise, cook him a good meal and "serve" it to him. Serve it hot because every hungry man deserves a well cooked meal, right ladies. I learn that from Madea. Remember her? Well google her and you'll see.

To end this, I want to say that next time, you see a smiling, happy lady and you want to degrade her or act stupid with her (both genders) then think twice. Because she may be at the supermarket all lovely but behind her closed doors, she may be another type of lady. An abused one, a lady who feel unworth and scared to say something. Just smile at her, it goes a long way for her.

Thanks for reading will update more on this as my time is not too occupied.
xoxox
-sweetmanhattangirl-