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Hello World,

It's 10pm and I am here. Many things have crossed my mind in what to be a main focus for my blog. But guess what, I am going to write mostly about everything, what has happened throught the day, things I over heard. YES!!! Secretos!! And other things.

For instance, when I was 13 years old, I basically didn't ask for much. I think I was still in the "what am I wearing" or "can I get the more than $1 ice cream". LOL. If your confused in where am I headed with this..well I have a 13 year old and she basically wants to do more things than I wanted when I was her age. Sleep overs? NOPE! I live in the city and many things happen in the city. Good...and bad. So I said NO from the very beginning. Now of course the why's and pleases came in but I was strong. Not strong enough though because we parents somethings feel bad in saying no but how else will our children learn if we say yes to everything?

I know alot of parents want to give everything they didn't have when they were younger but think about it. If you say yes all the time, do you think that your community will also say yes to everything? No. So why not teach the child in hearing a "no" here and there. I mean of course we all need to also explain why no's but also why the yes's.

Sometimes I think I am too hard on my kid but c'mon, we live in NYC and the prettieness also comes with a dark side. I love nyc. I was born and raised here, I have my issues, like everyone else and I think my mom did a good job in raising me. So why not try to do the same thing with my kid. So I am hard on her because the world, not only in nyc, will have a darkside. And we need to also teach our kids that since there are nice people out there, there are negative people. But that's where the questions start and we need to teach them good values. As in whether the world goes left, you can stay on the right side. I know is hard and most of the parents are in denial (next blog) about teaching them in left and right. And I am not talking about out left and right hands...or sides. But that's another blog.

So, yes I am hard on my kid because I am a single mom (along with her grandparents and aunts) and I need to show her rough side but also sweet gentle mom. I have been getting positive feedback from other mothers and I thank them so much because ummmm...yea I was 15 when I had my kid and wowzers!! thats another blog i may have to dedicate on. :-)
I thank them very much because growing up with my daughter was hard but I LOVED it!!! because I was myself and her, we played alot and just basically enjoyed lide. For now, at this time I can happily say that my teen life as a mom was marvelous and no I don't agree with teens having kids.
Opppppssss. I got lost in the track, I thank those moms who say I am doing a good job in raising my daughter. Now, who gets a good compliment on that? I haven't heard alot of moms out there saying they do so I appreciate this specific mom. and where ever she is, I am here for her!!

So what's new? My teen wanting to go out more. My teen asking why everything no. My teen getting on my nerves but I do just look at her and am so proud that she has a voice of her own. Hopefully one day that voice can change lives to the better.

I think I will stop typing now. And next topic will probabSoly in something about in denial. Thanks for reading this far and enjoy your night!!

-sweetmanhattangirl-
*kiss kiss*