I hope everyone has enjoyed their Easter day. I know a few know this but lately I been seeing alot of single people making wrong choices. Trying to hurry into a or, another relationship. I don't even think it should be called a relationship because that deals with two people, not one.
Well many of us want to find a partner fast because we're lonely, need companionship, need someone to be there for us...but if you ask yourself those words into questions, has the partners been there as that? I mean the last 'relationship' didn't last long enough and was he (narrowing it down, could be 'she' as well) there for you? Was he quiet enough to listen and understand you and help you out somehow? If you answer no, then sweetie let's think about the choices we make.
First off, we don't need someone, another human to make us whole. I know we all need someone to feel love and recieve hugs, but we don't desperately need someone for that. We need to accept the quietness that surrounds us. We need to mediatate about what we really need, and not just want. You can want many things but it doesn't mean you actually need that in your life. If your a person who yearns for affection, then the most ideal one for you would be an affectionate one. So in order to find a person like that, you need to be full with affection from yourself. To leanr the difference of fake affection. Meaning liers, those people who just want to be there for a few minutes.
We all makes mistakes, no doubt about that. But we do need to realize that the loniness and quietness of not having a relationship is the time for you to learn about your deeper thoughts. We grow everyday and when given the chance, we need to accept that. Now I don't mean you sit down doing nothing, but as you go out you see new people, learn their habits and actually asks yourself would you like it in 5 years from now? Would you still find it cute as you do now?
Also, remembering what went wrong in the past 'relationships' can help. If your partner made you feel a certain way you did not approve then look for the opposite of that characteristic. Take your time to explore the other person before making any long time decisions. Is like doing your homework and studying on that specific person.
Certain male friends have told me that they would have chosen me as the mother of their children if they knew where they would be landing. Brings me a smile but also concern because men also need to do their homework on girls. If you know she ain't the right one then don't make her your childrens mother. I seen that repeat so many times that everyone screams, "I told you so".
Until next time, be safe and keep laughing. Its the best medicine out there!
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